For a long time, I was stuck in a fog of persistent unease.
Even after pouring my thoughts into my journal, the fog wouldn’t lift.
So I made a decision:
I need to find the root of this unease.
As I reflected more deeply, I realized it stemmed from thinking too much about others.
The core issue was this:
I believed others had the answer.
That belief made everything feel harder.
When I looked at others—people shining, thriving, and moving forward in life—I thought,
“They’re the answer. They’re doing it right. I’m not.”
And that hurt.
The Realization That Shifted Everything
I came to understand:
Others don’t have the answer. I do.
Only I can choose the final answer for myself.
Only I can decide what’s right for me.
That realization helped me bring the focus back to myself.
Because when your attention is constantly fixed on others, it’s painful.
I had been caught in a loop of comparison.
I saw others moving forward in life and thought,
“They’re successful. I’m not. I’m falling behind.”
That was the root of my inner struggle.
The Pain of Outsourcing Your Truth
I was suffering because I treated other people’s choices, opinions, and lives as the standard.
Since I wasn’t living up to that, I felt inferior.
But that thinking was wrong.
And because it was wrong, it hurt.
The truth is:
I have to keep finding my own answers.
I have to grow by thinking for myself.
Others can be a reference, but their path is not my answer.
Just like my path isn’t their answer.
What It Means to Take Responsibility
We often hear advice like:
“Take responsibility for your life.”
I think I’m starting to understand what that really means.
It means choosing for yourself whose words you listen to.
And even if you follow someone else’s advice and it doesn’t work out—that’s still your choice. That’s responsibility.
Blaming others is okay too.
But own that decision as your own.
Somehow, that mindset brings a sense of freedom and clarity.
Because when we blame others, we hand over control of our life to forces we can’t manage.
That’s when we stay stuck in that heavy fog—the constant unease.
The Freedom of Choosing Your Own Way
Now that the fog has lifted, I feel a strange kind of relief.
Maybe it’s because I finally reclaimed my power.
So from now on, I’ll take responsibility.
I’ll keep choosing my own answers.
And I’ll keep walking forward—my way.
Even starting now is just fine.
About Me: Hi, I’m Evolving Mind. Through this blog, I share my journey of self-discovery and mental well-being. Journaling has been a powerful tool for me, and I hope to inspire others to find their own path to peace and clarity. You can learn more about my journey in my post, Welcome to the Journey of the Mind by Evolving Mind.
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