Posting again after a long time
I feel really good lately.
Better and better, actually—my overall condition feels strong and steady.
I’ve been reflecting on what changed.
One big thing is that I’ve been lucky with communication at work.
Another is that a long-standing relationship with a negative friend has finally ended—something I intentionally allowed to fade out.
For years, this friend spoke in negative ways.
Because we were “friends,” I pretended it didn’t bother me.
But in truth, it affected my mindset for a very long time.
I realize now that I didn’t set boundaries.
If I had, I think I could have walked away much earlier.
I hoped that talking things through might change things,
but people don’t really change.
Recently, people close to me have been saying things like,
“You seem brighter—did something change?”
That made me realize how negative my energy must have been before,
how trapped I was in certain ways of thinking.
But I proved something to myself.
I spent years—entire days—caught in negative thought patterns.
And yet, with intention, effort, and time, I changed.
I know this because I did change.
I still regret losing precious years of my youth, years I couldn’t fully enjoy because of that mindset.
But I’ve decided to see it differently now.
The experience—and the process of getting out of it—has become a strong skill.
The world is full of negative information and people who unknowingly influence us.
I learned how deeply that influence can reach.
So instead of thinking I “lost” those years,
I choose to believe I spent a long time learning something important.
Sometimes, though, when I compare myself to others and notice what they have that I don’t,
I feel a brief moment of sadness—self-pity sneaks in.
But now I know how to handle those moments.
So I’m okay.
To anyone who’s struggling right now—
everyone’s situation is different, but I found my way out.
That means it is possible to get out.
And the way out isn’t something you’ll find completely in books.
There is good information out there, yes.
But you won’t know if it truly works for you until you listen to yourself.
The most effective method is discovered through dialogue with yourself.
A completely personal, original approach—that’s the real answer.
I hope you find your answers.
I’ve built several of my own.
Because the right solution changes depending on the situation,
having a few different “answers” makes you feel stronger.
About Me: Hi, I’m Evolving Mind. Through this blog, I share my journey of self-discovery and mental well-being. Journaling has been a powerful tool for me, and I hope to inspire others to find their own path to peace and clarity. You can learn more about my journey in my post, Welcome to the Journey of the Mind by Evolving Mind.
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